Young Married Life-Guest Blogger!

Hey Everyone! I'm Timber Chapa. You can read all about my family and me here. Karly asked me to talk about being married and being  a parent at a young age. I could go off forever on this but I am going to try and squeeze as much as I can into one post. I'll also attempt to make sense and not make this too long. I might not be successful.

My whole life I grew up with the plan to go out and have amazing adventures after graduating. I never thought that I would end up being a very young wife and mom. The same week of my graduation, I went on the first date with my husband Angel. Since he lived across the street from me, we saw each other daily. So of course things moved fast. We got married August 27, 2010. Angel was 23 and I was 18. Yeah, that's young (:

There were lots of people who told me I was too young or said it proved I was immature since I rushed things. But I just knew for some reason it was the right time for me. It doesn't mean 18 is the right age to get married for everyone. I am young, and I am sure things would be tons easier if my husband and I were older and more mature. We have to work on our relationship  everyday. But I am positive couples who marry in their 30's do the same. Some of the most hard parts of my marriage to me are:

~My husband had a few more years to live his dreams and have experiences outside of marriage. I am sometimes jealous of that. Like they say, marriage literally ties you down. 

~If we were older we probably would be more prepared/stable. Most likely we'd be done with schooling (plus the expenses that come with it), maybe have a home, and probably a better paying job. All the stresses of trying to set up a life are hard. Money is a huge deal in marriages and definitely adds struggles to mine.

~Most(basically all) your friends aren't married when your as young as I am. So sometimes I feel disconnected from them since we are leading different lives and have less in common.

Being young parents is difficult too. Mostly for the same reasons I listed above. We weren't married long when we found out we were going to have a baby.  I know I could totally be on teen mom (: On August 4th of this year Tracen (my tiny man) was born. Angel and I were/still are learning to live with each other. Now on top of that we are learning to be parents too. Parenthood takes a lot of sacrifice. Especially of your time. Which includes along time with my husband. I believe that time with your spouse is extremely important to your marriage. When you have a child, getting that time in is much harder. 

I honestly don't think I need to list all the challenges of parenthood (sleepless nights, poopy diapers, etc). I will say though, its a lot harder then you thought it would be. Even though you were warned a million times before that it would be. But anyway, I am hating being negative and want to move on to the good. This will get cheesy I assure you.

I got to start the best part of my life early! I honestly can't put into words how happy my husband & son make me. Like I said earlier I planned to have amazing adventures and I really am. The challenges in marriage and parenthood make it mean so much more to me. The struggles are so worth it. 

 

Thanks Karly for inviting me over! You'll have to visit mine sometime and post some of your cute photography (: